DATING

Remember being approached by a man, and he actually showed interest. General questions, your name, relationship status, etc. Followed by “would you like to have dinner, drinks or go dancing?” currently the questions include “When can I come over?” Wait! What?! We as women have made it too easy; no effort is being put into the dating process. Have we lowered our standards, accepting the bare minimal? Everyone should have standards and expectations, I am a true believer, that how it begins is an indication of how it will be in the relationship. Both parties have to set the tone for what they expect, so a sturdy foundation can be laid.

We have to know our worth; somehow, somewhere signals have been misinterpreted, we need to be very clear. Why we feel it is okay to just have a stranger, come lay in Your house, eating Your food, sucking up Your air, serves no purpose. Whoever it is they should be bringing something to the table, not just themselves. That invitation should be extended once a friendship has been established. We are grown and don’t need to play house.

Now we get into whether to date one person at a time or to date multiple people at one time. I believe it is okay to date more than one person, as long as sex is excluded. Whether you’re dating one or more persons, DO NOT have sex. Sex will only complicate and confuse emotions and decisions, just don’t do it.

When dating (this is just my belief) you should date more than one person, and I’m not suggesting a whole football team of people but at least 3. We have to figure out what we are looking for and you should not devote all of your time and energy in one person, unless they are the one (and only). Look at it as if we were playing musical chairs and one chair left and 3 people are playing, why would there be someone parked in the chair. The only person that should have a permanent seat is your Man/Woman completely. So we are not going to play “boyfriend/girlfriend” either we are or we aren’t.

Don’t get me wrong, of course physical attraction is going to be a part of the process. But in order to have something healthy, true, deep and mentally intimate, sex “Must” play the background. Yes, this conversation will happen but if this is the main focus, the motives or intentions are loud and clear. It won’t take a long to determine if this is a match made or a waste of time. Let’s remember, there’s no need to rush, if it’s meant to be, it will be. Take your time and enjoy the process, the longer you marinate, the better. Now regardless of how many people you are dating at the moment, by the second date you should have a spark, connection, you should know something. Eliminating comes with the process; so no need to drag it out.

Once the connection is made, more dates and quality time are in store. We have to have a blueprint of how we want to be treated, so from the very beginning, if you would like your car door opened, flowers sent or holding hands in public make it known from the very beginning. Ladies, we are Queens and only should be in search for a King, not entertainment from a clown. Again Mr. Right is not going to fall in your lap, so you may have to be alone sometimes and that is very okay. This is time to reflect on self, so we can maintain or gain inner peace.

Queen, we must exude grace, elegance, class and let our internal beauty radiate. You are royalty and must be treated as such, so when choosing your King, he must recognize this in order for him to treat you like a Queen. You do not have to settle! Believe in You and trust the process. Dating is as easy as we make it but we must stay true to ourselves and when a red flag is waving you in your face, don’t play blind. If there is any doubt or question in your mind, you don’t need it. It’s as simple as that.

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